My mother always warned that I would not have everything I want in life. Love would hurt, jobs would overlook my qualifications and friends are not necessarily permanent fixtures. This painful truth made regular appearances as often as the next day. However, my mother warnings helped me build a shield of protection from hurt feelings.
Rejection was a part of life and, essentially, inescapable. There is no on and off switch to soothe the pain of rejection. When we consider the act of creating expectations, the sting of rejection can last even longer because of unfulfilled visions. However, it’s a detrimental process we must consider to even progress through life.
I recently viewed a video where motivational speaker Simon Sinek discussed work issues with millennials. According to Sinek, there is a disconnect that exist between older individuals and millennials. Sinek stated that we, millennials, tend to expect life to develop the way we envision and he blamed technology for this growing issue. Substituting likes and shares for acceptance, we are not as prepared for rejection as those who came before us.
Sinek also noted that millennials’ parents are different from their own. Our parents supported our visions and dreams more than any other, making us believe that we can do whatever we wanted in life. Our parents’ submissiveness to our desires helped us obtain things that we did not necessarily deserve. For example, if we wanted to be in the gifted class, we could if our parents work to fulfill that goal. This pattern follows throughout our young adult stages. We literally float along in a safety bubble until reality pops it and leaves us clueless about how to put the pieces back together.
Rejection is necessary for growth and understanding. My mother was the first person to reject my visions and goals in a loving way. She was able to let me know when I was not good enough and when I needed to work harder. I survived her rejections and was able to overcome others that came my way. Unlike Sinek’s opinion, my mother did not align with his status quo and for that, I know that I must work hard to obtain the things I want in life.
Rejection is not the end. It can actually be the start of something new or change. I was rejected from a graduate program, but tried again and received a small scholarship. I have rejected love just as it has rejected me and job denials are prevalent.
Yes, rejection sucks. However, we do not live in a world that solely concede our wishes.
If we truly had everything we ever wanted all the time, accomplishment and effort could not exist.