Your 20s are filled with highs and lows. Uncertainty greets you at every corner and you often find yourself wondering when things will get easy. Bills tend to pile up and job rejections grow by the day, but you always find time to live, smile and enjoy life. Your 20s are filled with risks and irresponsibility. You may choose to do a random road trip, travel, skip out on a bill or use your savings to pay for Rihanna tickets. Although the constant worries of life are there with every step you take, 20-somethings always find a way to make any situation work in their favor.
Society almost expects this out of us. If you lose your job, your young enough to bounce back and get another one. If your credit is crappy, you have plenty of time to build it back up again. If your relationship ends, society tells you that you should not waste your time “loving” in your 20s anyway.
It is true. We always bounce back and often limit opportunities to dwell on our downfalls and sadness. The truth of the matter is that being a 20-something is hard. It is a time where you expect so much from life. You want to make more money. You want to fall in love. You want to be in your dream career.
Being a 20-something feels like a strange stage in your life where everyone knows how the story will play out before you do.
Midway through my 20s, I felt that I had figured life out and began yearning for a new decade. I had a new label for my experience: “crappy 20s”. For me, 30 was the opportunity to start over with life. I often found myself telling my friends who were feeling low that 30 was around the corner and things are guarantee to get better. I treated this decade like it was the savior to all my problems.
However, no age affords us with a stress-free life.
The situations and occurrences that defeat us in our 20s will appear again in every decade. What differs is how we handle each situation. Being a 20-something helps us grow to learn what we can and cannot emotional deal with; eventually teaching us that we have the capability to push through any and every situation. If you lose your job, another will come and there is someone always out there to love when a relationship fails.
The highs and lows of your 20s prepares you for a similar cycle that you will experience in your 30s and 40s. If life were to get easier with age, struggle and issues would diminish over time. We already know that struggle never disappear, so we should learn to live through it instead of trying to eliminate them from your life.
I use the following ideas and practices in my life to help me get through tough situations.
- Recognize that pain is temporary. Think about your high school love. You remember the pain of your first break-up? How do you feel about that break-up now? Nothing. Exactly. Pain eventually weakens with time. You should cry and vent if you need to because eventually the sadness and pain will subside and life will continue on.
- See positivity in every situation. Because no one likes a negative Nancy and being positive allows you to see the benefits in even the crappiest of situations.
- Think about how far you have come. Recognize your growth and appreciate it. Celebrate how far you have progressed in a life that constantly challenges you.
- Mediate. It does not take a great deal of effort to pause your senses and thinking for ten or fifteen minutes. The benefits of mediating are numerous and it pulls you away from the challenges of being a 20-something.
- Get close with your spiritual self. Sometimes the best way to deal with a situation is to separate yourself from the material world.
Each of these five steps will not make being a 20-something easier. However we need to recognize that life is challenging, but also rewarding.In order to succeed you have to be willing to struggle.
Appreciate the struggle because once it subsides you are always introduced to growth.